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Friday, November 18, 2005

Painful parenting..............

This entry has nothing to do with children with special needs, perhaps it has more to do with a parent that has a child with special needs and can't fathom why other parents abuse their children as they do (ME, ME, ME)..... especially those parents that wanted more children but couldn't have them....DITTO........ok, now that that is out of the way..........

Part of my previous life involved serving as a court appointed attorney advocating for the rights of parents who had children at risk for removal from the home. I represented mothers who chose to remain with their boyfriends/children's fathers who were charged with molesting her children. Of course when my client, the mother, chose the molestor/boyfriend/husband, my case was closed and I had no argument for the court, thankfully, as this child should have been placed for open adoption after the termination hearing. More often than not, the cases went on and the children were in foster homes for years. So sad...... as adoptive families are waiting.

Here is yet another story....

A 16-month-old boy brought to an emergency room by his parents was placed in the custody of child-welfare officials today after doctors determined he had swallowed cocaine, Marion County sheriff’s deputies said.
No arrests were made. The prosecutor’s office will decide whether authorities have sufficient evidence to warrant charges.

Hey we live in Indy, but bet that the adorable child will be in foster homes for years upon years knowing the parental termination laws here, so painful........for the children as well as those that would welcome them with crack fee arms......... painful parenting on the side that is waiting.........

At least the parents brought him to emergency care.........


The Field Family said...

Our daughter was removed from her birth parents immediately after birth. They were given 12 months to get her back. She was about 15 months when their parental rights were terminated and 17 months when she came to live with us. She was one of the lucky ones.

She was only in TWO homes during those 15 months and she was in her first for over a year. She had it easy.

As a foster parent, I want to save them all, but I can't. What I CAN do is make a difference in my daughter's life and thank God she had it as easy as she did. So many others are not as lucky.


Tara Marie said...

It is so sad,,,,,and CJ, I give thanks to families such as your for opening your heart and home.

Monica said...

Jan - I hear you! I have gone home crying for the life some of the young children in our school have ahead of them with their drug-adicted, neglectful parents :(. I want to take them all home with me and let them live a childhood full of wonder and discovery and innocence. And as you said, there are so many out there that could provide this for them... but rather they sit in foster care - thankgoodness that there are SOME good foster homes out there!